Sep 10, 2014

Ending the Charade--Write it or Perish

Seriously, my mother is killing me......or some would say killing my spirit.

I am losing my mind in a serious way.

My son said....in an angry tone....."MOM, Don't just go there and get all mad again......it's not like your mother is going to start liking you."

97--recently broke her hip.

Her goal is to walk around the building with the cane according to PT.

Actually, she is doing great getting up and around--walking with her walker--to a degree.

So back to our big fight--right--the one we had when I had the audacity to say she needed to exercise...to do some walking.  Would she like to walk around the building with me and Ronnie.

This is the usual pattern...gets real mad and throws me out...I don't know what I am talking about.  OR nurse for 25 years--about the most common surgery, a daily surgery, is the old lady breaking their hip.

Runs over to my ex-husbands house and recounts the story of how awful I am....her favorite term.....to try and tell her what to do.

Imagine--a daughter balling a mother out.

You're trying to tell me what to do.

Arrogant, chin jutting out, Bill O'Reilly style.

Mother routinely searches out these predators to commiserate with them about how tragic and unfair her life has been--the trials and tribulations of raising a daughter like me.

Can everyone please just feel sorry for her.........

So here is the question--what are you suppose to do--tell people you do not want anything to do with mother when they call and say she broke her hip.

When other family members are talking to you in that odd way like there is something wrong with you.

You see, you can't just say to nice normal people you don't care--then you just look even more odd.

What's the point..........

The whole thing is a charade......Mother could not wait to slam me to my ex-husband--yes, mother is friends with my ex-husband and his twenty year girl friend.  But she is resentful at admitting I even had a clue of insightful information.  You don't know what your talking about....I'm too old to exercise.....is one of her favorite statements.

She would never take the opportunity to say I am fabulous to the predatory and small-minded individual.

At the end of the day that would ruin the platform of their relationship.

You see, what most people don't get is that almost every word out of mother's mouth is a lie.  A lie told with a bold tone and then resold with even more arrogance.

Mother unleashed.......

You see, there is never anyone around to say "Gee, Frances, maybe you are hurting Chloe's feelings."

Yes, there was Grandma--amazing Grandma--she could control mother to some degree.  But, alas, my saviour has passed.

I don't think anyone ever really believes me--that is the frustrating part--and then I usually ruin everything even more with anger.

NO--it's the way you talk--you fussed when you were two years old--you've always fussed.

Yes, mother also supports physical violence--husband to wife--again it's the way I talk--"You talk so bad."

What am I doing--I don't know--I'm 62 and still banging my head against the wall--thank God for dogs, children and Grandmas.


So I said to mother let's end the charade--what is to be gained--you're 97--I'm 62......anything can happen when you are 97 having surgery.

So we have stupid F***ing Freddie as the brilliant good Samaritan who is mother's power of attorney.

I said, "Mother, if you have a Joan River's moment I'll just be begging Freddie for information again."  He recently said stay out of San Diego--you're mother doesn't want you here......stay in Wichita....you should get a job.

Remember, it's often said by others....Freddie is only doing what your mother wants.

Another humiliating situation created by mother--right, like the ex-husband.  Remember, mother never takes the opportunity to rectify false information.  It's said Freddie knows the truth.  I haven't figured out the whole Freddie deal yet but something seems odd to me.

Another point........

Keep in mind mother does not want anyone in her room helping her organize so she can get back to normal living--some one might talk about her at the manor--like she does not talk, right.

And here is the other side of it--Mother saw me the other day when she was going to PT and she was smiling and laughing--She seemed so happy to see me at that moment--I was so happy--I can't get that picture out of my mind.  You see, I also feel very sorry for mother--I think she had a tragic younger life.  I should have been a better daughter and kept my mouth shut.  I am so sad about everything.  I should have been smart enough to fix things.

Undone--thanks to anyone for reading.......to be continued




Sep 4, 2014

Seriously, Actually, at the end of the day.........Bill O'Reilly vs Snoop Dog

Bill O'Reilly
Cover of Bill O'Reilly
Snoop Dogg
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Bill O'Reilly would like to be the big dog in town, but Snoop has that position now
 Seriously, Actually, at the end of the day.........

Seriously, there is something wrong with Bill O'Reilly.

As an O'Reilly critic I have been trying to figure out what is wrong with the man for a long time.  His idea of picking and choosing facts to highlight his point of view and calling it the news is simply amazing.

Actually, the words of Zeke Emanuel calling him out for using his podium to spread fear rather than give out information regarding the ACA and President Obama is an accurate statement. 

A personal favorite is the Kennedy Center Honors where he actually shook hands with Snoop yet ignored the opportunity to make a relationship with someone who knew the inner city and could have enlightened him on events and situations where O'Reilly likes to give his opinion but has no firsthand information.  He also goes on about Beyonce to an embarrassing degree but refused to acknowledge Snoops community work with his football team in Long Beach.  Snoop has spoken often about responsibility--he has had great conversations with Larry King--someone who is actually interested information.

Also, the comments of Joan Walsh on his interview with President Obama on Superbowl Sunday were quite enlightening and thoughtful.  Her comment and insight were helpful to those who found his in-the-face approach to a conversation with a sitting President offensive.

At the end of the day it seems like Bill must have been mistreated as a child in some way that he cannot handle compassion for other people.  Groups of people do not want to forget their history.  They want to cherish their history and try to understand it.  His hatred for Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson are telling when so many find the words of these individuals soothing.  The Reverend recently won the Essence award for community work.


Well--what do you think--why is he so popular--who are these folks he always claims to be looking out for?

Where I worked the surgeons were dancing to Gin and Juice--that's what Bill does not get.

Snoop is main stream--it is the regular work a day citizen that voted for President Obama.

Bill wants to convince us all into subscribing to  his view of Catholic guilt-ridden religion and save the world.

Right, then we can all be successful and angry like him. 

It is not just a political view......it is an arrogance and lack of of compassion.


Here is a story in Salon about the misrepresentations he has portrayed in Killing Jesus

http://www.salon.com/2014/09/04/bill_oreillys_killing_jesus_is_fiction_fact_checking_the_fox_news_anchors_history_of_jesuss_death/


Here is a picture of my cat:



Here is a picture of the big dog in my town.......Ronnie:





Aug 20, 2014

Geraldo Rivera: Giving a Voice to The Working Class

English: Geraldo Rivera at a Hudson Union Soci...
English: Geraldo Rivera at a Hudson Union Society event in September 2010. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
from the ronnie republic radio round-up........

It has to be said, for a conservative news/talk radio broadcast Geraldo Rivera gives a chance for the average working class individual to have a voice--to speak and be heard.

"I appreciate all of my calls today because they have been so thoughtful and heartfelt."

Seriously, this is unheard of in right wing radio and television news.

Good job to WABC Radio New York and Geraldo Rivera and his partner Noam Laden for letting the average guy get their ideas out there.

Well done.

Aug 17, 2014

Why the F*** Did I Just Buy This Car?????? Subaru of Wichita: Hello

Blogging a real bad case of buyer's remorse........Hello:  Subaru of Wichita--Sam and Jessie........

Hey....did you ever say that to yourself?

What was I thinking......Why in the world did I even listen to the salesman.....Sam......Jessie.

What I still don't understand is why they brought out a car I had said i was not even remotely interested in.....and then went on about it forever.......

Seriously, it was such a great buy...so magnificent......just look at it....they just got it in...they do not know the price but it's going to be amazing......it's just such a fabulous car......yes, they do excitement well.

What are you suppose to do when the buyer is basically surrounded....you practically have to look at the thing unless you are going to forego polite conversation and walk off when the thing is sitting right in front of you.

No, I should have left....I did not....yes, I hate myself in the morning......the problem is the thing most likely will not make it to where I am going.....it won't make it to see the world....why did I buy it......I'm insane.

Will I give the salesperson, Jessie, an awesome write-up--everyone else has......probably not at this time.

I said to the people millions and millions of times.......many times......over and over again....I do not want a car I have to put belts on right away....I have to drive back and forth from Wichita to San Diego...yes I am on a budget and do need an economy car....or that's what they said.....personally I wanted the Volvo.

So what did I buy.......a Ford Focus with 102,000 miles on it....that needs belts...it has not had the belts replaced so it needs belts....right.

Oh, they were just so worried about me and my happiness--my comfort.

Am I dead yet.   Do I have buyer's remorse.  Can I write this blog.  Am I stupid.

Mother said maybe I can find someone to buy it on the way to San Diego....I can find a guy to sell it to that works on cars.......
Mother is 97 and recovering from hip surgery.....I have often complained about mother but apparently she is a lot smarter than I am.

Questions and comments accepted....saga to continue......yes the car drives really hard, waivers on the road, feels unstable, I'm afraid to drive it and sounds like it is going to blow up......but they thought it would be a good car for me.......remember they only are concerned about my happiness.......


They were so worried about me having to make repairs......so concerned about my well-being........but the Volvo already had belts.


ride home happy--ride home crying

Car Buying Articles

Can You Return the Car You Just Bought?

Under Some Circumstances, a Dealer Might Take a Car Back


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    You might wish you could void your purchase contract and simply give the car back to the dealer. But unlike other consumer products, it's not easy to return a car. | October 18, 2012 
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It's the morning after your big car purchase and you wake up with a knot in your gut. The car you bought suddenly seems like too much car for your needs, the monthly payments are high and you bought an expensive warranty. Long story short, you want to return the car.
Most stores let you return clothes and products if you change your mind. But that's almost never the case with cars, where return policies and laws are notoriously strict. Nevertheless, car buyers with buyer's remorse ask us all the time: Can I unwind the deal?
The answers are "no" and "maybe."
Your legal rights can be summed up in the one sentence that's posted on the wall of many dealership sales offices: "There is no cooling-off period."
There is a federal cooling-off rule, which is primarily meant to protect consumers from high-pressure door-to-door sales tactics. It doesn't apply to automobiles. If you signed the sales contract, you own the car. And the law is on the side of the dealer.
So, what can you do about that knot in your gut? Here's where the "maybe" comes in. Essentially, it is up to the dealer's discretion whether to unwind the deal. While business owners clearly want customers to be satisfied, undoing a car purchase is a costly headache for a car dealer. But there are times when it's the right thing to do. That's the viewpoint laid out in "Unwinding a Deal," an article in a dealer publication, F&I Showroom. The author is Marv Eleazer, finance director atLangdale Ford in Valdosta, Georgia.
Addressing other car-selling professionals, Eleazer writes: "There are situations where we must swallow our pride and endure the hassle of unwinding a deal." He goes on to address several specific situations: if the car doesn't perform as promised, if the buyer has misrepresented his credit score and if the salesperson has over-promised and under-delivered on the deal.
Obviously, unwinding a deal is a gray area, and the buyer must carefully approach the dealer with such a request. While each situation is different, let's look at three common scenarios.
"I Have Buyer's Remorse"
In recent years, some manufacturers such as Chevrolet have offered car-return programs. But the vast majority of dealers have no written policies allowing vehicles to be returned. This means that your only recourse is to plead your case. You can say that you have discovered that you don't like the car or that it will stretch your budget and put you in dire financial straits.
If you have buyer's remorse, you can call the salesperson first as a courtesy, but be prepared to contact someone higher up the dealership food chain, such as the sales manager, general manager or owner. It's in the dealer's sole discretion to undo the purchase.
"I Got Ripped Off"
In "Confessions of a Car Salesman," undercover car salesman Chandler Phillips recalls that a couple appeared in the showroom yelling and waving their sales contract. A group of sales managers surrounded the two and escorted them to the back of the dealership.
Apparently, they had bought a car the day before, Phillips writes. They went home and reviewed the contract and felt they got ripped off. "I heard one of the sales managers say: 'Buying a car is like going to Vegas — sometimes you win and sometimes you lose.'"
This is a harsh response that is probably not indicative of what most dealers would tell a customer. But it does underscore how difficult it is to get a deal reversed just because you think you paid too much.
If, however, the salesman didn't keep his promises, or you suspect fraud, you might have a case. But don't make wild, unfounded accusations. Instead, use any documentation you can find. If you feel you paid way too much, reference Edmunds.com True Market Value (TMV®) pricing as proof of an acceptable price.
Consumers who cry foul on price are at least partially to blame. Perhaps a pushy salesman exploited their lack of knowledge. Preparation and research are essential for such a large purchase and, clearly, these two were unprepared to enter the arena. Once at the dealership, they should have simply walked out rather than buying the car and then arguing — after the fact — that they'd paid too much.
"I Bought a Lemon!"
It takes time, and repeated visits to the service bay, to legally establish that a car is a lemon. However, buyers may quickly feel their car is defective and want to return it or exchange it for a different one. This is particularly true in the case of used cars.
In situations where there is a clear problem with a new or newly purchased used car, the dealer will probably fix it under warranty. If no warranty exists, as with many used cars, you can still lobby to have the car fixed. The dealer's incentive is that by doing so, he'll build good will and attract repeat customers.
The Dealer's Perspective
It's helpful to understand the dealer's point of view to reach an acceptable solution to this problem. Responding to Edmunds questions by e-mail, Marv Eleazer writes, "There is no problem that can't be resolved when people take a mature approach. Dealerships really are looking for repeat business and make great strides to create an environment that promotes long-term relationships with their customer base."
He adds: "The best way to resolve these misunderstandings is to simply return to the dealership and ask to speak to the manager in a calm tone. Drama and shouting does not impress. Asking for help does."
In cases of buyer's remorse — perhaps if a person bought too much car for his budget — Eleazer writes that the dealer might be willing to place him in a more affordable car. But dealers are "under no obligation to do so either legally or morally."
If You Still Don't Get Satisfaction
If your grievances are deep, or you complained to the dealership to no avail, there are still a few things you can do. Obviously, you can hire a lawyer and sue the dealership. But this is costly and time-consuming. So let's look at other options.
You can register a complaint against the dealership through local and state agencies. Go to the Web site for your state's department of motor vehicles to see if there is a way to file a complaint.
Your state's attorney general's office is another place to look for information on how to file a complaint against a car dealership. The attorneys general Web site for your state will provide information on local laws and the complaint process.
Another avenue is the Better Business Bureau. Ideally, the time to check the dealership for consumer complaints is before you buy a car. The same goes for Edmunds.com's Dealer Ratings & Reviews and other online reviews such as those posted on Google or Yelp. But after the fact, you might be able to get the BBB to bring some pressure on the dealership to resolve a dispute. Short of that, threatening to write a nasty online review or give the dealership failing grades on a manufacturer's post-purchase survey might carry some weight.
While a consumer might be able to force a dealership to take a car back, it's far better to avoid such difficulties in the first place. When we buy cars for the Edmunds long-term test fleet, we usually ask to have the contract faxed or e-mailed to our offices before we take delivery. This gives us a chance to review the contract and all the prices. We plug the numbers into our owncalculators and make sure everything adds up correctly.
When the responses to your plea to unwind a deal are likely to be "no" or "maybe," it's best to never put yourself in the position of asking. Avoid the unwind bind by being a prepared car buyer who knows a car's pricing, reads the sales contract carefully and fully inspects a new or used car before taking ownership.