Did The National Cemetery Administration Lie?
In a word, yes!
Why was I excluded from my mother's sevice?
I was told by the cemetery director, randy heard, that they did not know about me--they did not have the death cert as it was not required by the state of Arizona.
We see from FOIA they did, indeed, know about me:
My name is all over the VA system hooked to my mother.
They should have called to let me know they would be burying her ashes.
My cousin had picked up the ashes for me as a favor. He called and asked if he could pick up the ashes and I said yes as it saved me a trip. When I wanted to wait to bury her he becamed angry and placed her ashes without telling me, willfully, withholding my phone number from the cemetery.