Showing posts with label jay dalrymple. Show all posts
Showing posts with label jay dalrymple. Show all posts

Aug 30, 2023

jay dalrymple's Nuggets

 

jay dalrymple had to comment on my financial situation--what did that have to do with anything--I had an agreement to meet with scott in November to place my mother at Greenwood but when I wanted to wait scott became angry.  I was never worried about time.







From the tone and subject matter one might guess this communication could be from jay dalrymple.

Do keep in mind it is mr dalrymple who told me many folks make false statements today and hung up one me.

One wonders if mr dalyrymple would be so cavalier if it was his mother that was buried without his knowledge.

One would kindly ask mr dalrymple for empathy at a time like this.

As far as his "interesting nugget" of information goes...my mother's cremation was paid for years in advance.  She had paid for her cremation at Neptune and her plot at Greenwood next to her mother and father and her brother's one of them being scott's father.

She was very proud of this fact and often repeated it and scott often reminded me of this.

There was never any kind of money agreement with scott varley.

I probably did say I was on a budget and the trip to San Diego would cost about 6 thousand and I preferred to wait until prices were lower.  Scott did not want me to wait, became angry and buried her without my knowledge.

I have shown the text where scott sent me the remains permit for me to send to Greenwood.  Greenwood did raise their prices from 2000 to 3000 in six months.  I felt this was expensive when she thought everything was paid for in advance.

scott merely called and asked if he could pick up the ashes for me as a favor as he was visiting San Diego where we all lived forever.

I felt we had a good relationship and foolishly agreed, never guessing this horrible fiasco would ensue.

In my job, as an operating room nurse for 25 years, one has to be all about the facts.

My point is that I guess I expect other people to take their job seriously and be about the facts, too.  We cannot lie or make false statements.  Not only would someone find out immediately, but, honestly, would you really want someone bringing you in the operating  room for a surgery who was not being careful with the facts.  You know what I mean--right arm / left arm--you get my drift.

Why would jay dalrymple find it to be such an "interesting nugget of information"  to know that I was on a budget?  More than that, what if I honestly did not have any money, Would that give scott varley the right to bury my mother without my knowledge when I am listed in the will and trust to be in charge of her remains and carry out her wishes.

mr randy heard ends all of his e-mails with the quote from John Lewis to make a good noise.

But when I ask questions and try to make a noise people have complained they have spent too much time talking to me.  Do keep in mind I am asking why randy heard dodged the questions repeatedly about the remains permit when we know now he had it all along.

Do keep in mind randy heard said I was not notified about the service because he didn't know about me but now we see with the FOIA he knew about me all along as I was listed as a NOK on the paperwork.

I have asked the NCA to acknowledge that my cousin scott varley willfully withheld information so I would not know he was burying my mother in Prescott.  There is plenty of evidence showing he had my phone number.  Would randy heard or John Lewis think that is a good noise?

So when I have asked the NCA repeatedly to admit that scott varley lied I do not appreciate one person saying I had issues with mental health.  Does it mean I have an issue with mental health when I merely asked the NCA to admit the truth.

Remember randy heard said scott varley did not make any false statements and the VA did not do anything wrong.

And remember, it was sworn to in an investigation that scott varley absolutely made false statements--this was from a person at the cemetery.

Do the people at the NCA think it is a joke that my cousin said I did the right thing for Aunt Frances--we had a 21 gun salute and I was the only one there.

He simply could have called me up.

Do the people at the NCA think I am mentally ill because I had to endure my other cousin, jean, scott's sister sending me an expletive ridden e-mail when someone must have said something about exhuming ashes-words i never use--simply because she became aware of the fact that I wanted to move my mother's ashes to where she owned her plot.

I do not appreciate the sentiment of the NCA regarding this humiliating and extremely hurtful event.

What if I was broke, what if I was mentally ill, what if I was homeless, what if I never wanted to bury the ashes but keep them with me........

Does that give scott varley the right to lie about me, about my contact information and to bury my mother's ashes without letting me know.

My mother put me in charge of the disposition of her remains, not scott varly, and not the NCA to make decisions for me.

I am sending the trust again where I am named the NOK and the agent in charge of her remains.   Please read 6.3 where it says I am the agent in charge of her remains.

Do me a favor, please read it--you can skim most of it--it does not really take that long.

In my job we take care of people, regardless of their income, home situation or their mental health--all of those people need surgery and if I put a derogatory remark in the chart questioning someone asking too many questions, their budget or their mental health I would be fired--it is simply not allowed.

One would suggest the same respect from the NCA and the VA, particularly when they cannot stop talking about dignity.


Please have some respect for my situation.

Thank you for your time,

Sharon McDowell

Aug 1, 2023

Is The VA And NCA Involved In A Cover-Up?

 Well, the situation begs the question.


So, they buried my mother but could not be bothered to let me know.


Yes, they did their big investigation and what was their result--their own perfection.


Complaining and shaming about answering too many of my questions they have proclaimed they do not have time for me.


Really, because they did not answer any of my questions.


I still do not know what happened--what took place at the cemetery between my cousin and the employees--he told me he talked to someone at the cemetery and they agreed with him completely--about burying my mother and not letting me know.


I asked them to look into the fact that my cousin lied to the cemetery and the NCA.


They refuse to address the issue.


I asked them to look into the fact that randy heard, cem director, lied about the remains permit.  He had it all along and denied it several times--refusing to acknowledge the policy for scanning information with the remains.


But why.....


What do we know so far?


We know scott varley lied to the NCA because one employee told me he absolutely lied and had to swear to that in an investigation.


So we know that the NationalCemetery Administration knows that my cousin, scott varley made false statements to the federal government and took my benefits.


We know that randy heard lied because he said I was not invited to the service because he did not know about me.  We know he did from the remains permit--he lied about having it and he had it all along--the pauper's grave statement and the statement from scott about his conversation with the cem.


scott varley painted a picture of me a a derelict, as if I fell off the earth.


Why--so he could bury my mother and I would not know what was happening.


Is any of this up for debate.


Can the NCA acknowledge the facts.


It is humiliating to have this horrible, shameful, embarrassing information in my mother's file and then they go on about dignity--it is disgusting and it is ridiculous for grown men and women to not deal in facts and truth.


Should we expect integrity from the government--just asking......


The other huge question they are not addressing is my mother's will and trust and durable power of attorney where it states specifically that I am her agent to make decisions about her remains according to her wishes.


There are many publications where the VA encourages a veteran to have these documents in place.


I have asked them several times--is her will and trust on file--tell me why you will not recognize the legal document.


They skipped over these giant issues in their investigation and claimed they have spent way too much time looking into things for me.


We know they know scott varley lied--I am asking them kindly to acknowledge this information and include it and the will and trust in my mother's file.


I think they are reasonable questions since they buried her and did  not let me know.


randy heard lied about knowing I existed, about the remains permit, and claimed scott varley did not make false statements and the VA did not do anything wrong after the other person said he swore in an investigation scott did make false statements.


Dear execs at the NCA...if someone lied to you about burying your mother wouldn't you want to know why.


We know they have a cavalier relationship with the truth because when jay dalrymple was told scott varly lied he said a lot of people lie these days and hung up on me.


According to Vince at Neptune in San Diego, Scott's pauper's grave story was a fantasy.  The burial experts should have seen the red flags.


Did they contact Vince during their investigation?


Four different employees from 4 different National Cemeteries have told me they can easily check with the mortuary if there are red flags.  I frequently try to do research.


They had Neptune on the Remains Permit, not to mention my name as the daughter and the destination of Greenwood where my mother owned her plot in San Diego.  Her plot was next to her mother and her brother's one of them being scott,s father.


I trusted scott completely when he offered to pick up the ashes on a visit to San Diego--I thought we had a good relationship and I was happy about it but he became angry when I was indecisive and said I was on a budget.


scott varley used the VA as a tool for anger and revenge.  


Is it too much to ask for the truth and honesty in my mother's file?


Given the indescrepencies it seems like it would be reasonable for one to ask questions.


If anyone has any tips, information, help, suggestions, ideas or thoughts about this very confusing issue please contact me.


Sherry McDowell

316-347-9710

chloe.louise.langendorf.louis@gmail.com


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