May 6, 2023

National Cemetery Administration News--They buried my mother but they did not let me know!



National Cemetery Administration News:


To:  Randy Heard, Director at Prescott National Cemetery in Arizona and Bradley Phillips, Regional Director


 Let's start with a very simple, very basic question.


Why wasn't I notified about my mother's service?

That is a reasonable question.

Get back to me with the answer.

Please place this in the file that I am the daughter of Frances Barclay and I am asking the question of why I was not notified about my mother's service.

Would that not be something that would go in the file?


My complaint with Veterans Affairs and The NCA




I am making a formal complaint.

How do I properly make this complaint?

Get back to me on this with an answer.

Let me know if you think it is reasonable for me to ask this question and let me know if you think this is a complaint that should go in the file.

Mr. Phillips, please forward this complaint to Ronald Walters and Matthew Quinn.


Please tell me how to make a formal complaint about this one incident.

Thank you for your time,

When should I expect your answer to this question?

Sharon McDowell


The National Memorial Cemetery of Arizona oversees this cemetery. If you are unable to reach the cemetery staff at the number above, please call 480-513-3600.


Prescott National Cemetery, National Cemetery Administration News--They buried my mother but they did not let me know!, Matthew Quinn, Bradley Phillips, Randy Heard, Ronald Walters,


Here we are at Mother's 103rd at the Veterans Home in Chula Vista.  Scott Varley tried to pretend I did not exist, but why?

Here we are at Mother's 103rd at the VA Home in Chula Vista--Scott tried to pretend I did not exist, but why?


May 2, 2023

My Mother Joined The WAVES in 1943...

 My mother joined the WAVES in 1943. 


She was very proud of her assignment in Hawaii. 


Unfortunately, for mother, the VA has hijacked her ashes and placed her in AZ at The National Cemetery in Prescott. 


She wanted to be by her parents in San Diego at Greenwood where she already owned her plot. 


One of the NCA policies is to always be courteous. 


It would be nice if they answered my questions. 


They buried her on false statements given by my cousin. 


They do not want to admit they acted on false statements. 


The question is why? 


Most adults want to get to the truth of a situation but not the VA or NCA. 


Here is my story https://theronnierepublic.blogspot.com/.../national... 


Thank you for reading. Tell me if you have any tips for solving this thing. 



My mother at Morningside Park in New York City about 1943 after joining the WAVES





New Under Secretary for Memorial Affairs Matthew Quinn



My mother joined the WAVES in 1943. She was very proud of her assignment in Hawaii. Unfortunately, for mother, the VA has hijacked her ashes and placed her in AZ at The National Cemetery in Prescott. She wanted to be by her parents in San Diego at Greenwood where she already owned her plot. One of the NCA policies is to always be courteous. It would be nice if they answered my questions. They buried her on false statements given by my cousin. They do not want to admit they acted on false statements. The question is why? Most adults want to get to the truth of a situation but not the VA or NCA. Here is my story https://theronnierepublic.blogspot.com/.../national... Thank you for reading. Tell me if you have any tips for solving this thing. No lawyer is interested.



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Love the commentary of Shauna at The Vintage Read Show.  

Enjoy the very interesting selection of books.

Thanks, Shauna, for taking time to share your channel.


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Apr 19, 2023

The Gift of Chatting

 Have you ever wanted someone to talk to and there was absolutely no one available...


The gift of chatting--some folks have it.


Given the gift yesterday.


Straight up out the door for the morning dog walk a lovely young man complemented my beautiful dog.  Yes, he is a gorgeous juvenille delinquent.  He knew every thing about dogs growing up on a farm and particularly dogs that want to chase everything.  His dog training tips were priceless.  Took time to show me his artwork.  Dog training takes patience.


The lady at the cemetery.


Always trying to make sense of my cousin hijacking my mother's ashes and the mystery of how to get the elusive court order an extremely kind lady at the Heritage Cemetery in Dewey took time to tell me that once folks have passed they are not really interested in controversy.  This situation comes up more often than people realize.  The death situation brings out the extremes of behavior in the loved oncs left behind.


Not everything that is done in the final placement business is on the up and up.  I loved her words.  Did she know my mother?


Samena Squares in Kirkland--The Square Dance Group.


They not only square dance but go to many social events together.  "We are always doing something, not just square dancing."  she really enjoyed the group and always encourages other to actually join the group in addition to attending their dances.  Seriously, it was the best recomendation to join something.


Thank you, for giving me the gift of conversation...and all in one day.


Shout out and thank you to Karyl, the lovely lady at the Heritage Cemetery in Dewey, Arizona.






 

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Apr 4, 2023

National Cemetery Administration News--Burying Mother Against Her Wishes and Calling it Dignity

 National Cemetery Administration News--The Tale of Mother's Ashes


The Veterans Administration has not been helpful.


Infact, they have been confusing and it appears that they are going out of their way to absolve themselves of any responsibility--even though they did it.


Admire their idea to bury veterans so that someone who is in a precarious situation may have a final placement with dignity after serving their country--this is so lovely.


My mother does not fall into this category and the policies they they keep repeating to me with all the emotions of a robot just do not apply.

They say they care but after several weeks of dealing with them and trying to understand their conflicting statements one could come to the conclusion that the only ones they really care about are themselves.

My mother is the veteran, served her country proudly in the WAVES and had an advanced health care directive in place and named me in her trust as Next Of Kin and the one designated to handle her affairs.




She wsa so proud of the fact that she had everything in order--her cremation at Neptune and owning her plot at Greenwood in San Diego next to her parents and her brothers.


Scott does not listen...

We both had moved from SD after living there forever.  Visiting San Diego, Scott offered to pick up the ashes for me from Neptune.  Agreeing to this idea since it saved me from making a big trip.

Mother passed at the heigth of COVID and funerals and burials were shut down.  We had often discussed her burial at Greenwood next to his father and her parents.

We agreed to meet in San Diego in November but I had to cancel due to expense and circumstances.  Greenwood was raising their price to 3000 dollars from 2 thousand in the span of 6 months.  Car rental and gas were at an all-time high.

What was a day drive for Scott was turning into a 5,000 dollar trip for me that I just could not afford at the time.

Apologizing for not being able to make the trip and canceling one could sense a note of anger in the conversation.

Time was never a concern and one should have asked for the ashes to be mailed in retrospect.

In anger and revenge Scott placed mother's ashes at Prescott National Cemetery without my knowledge.

Calling Scott again to apologize for canceling he would not answer my call or text.

I'll let him cool off for a while.


Scott made flase statements to the National Cemetery Administration:


Full well knowing there was an advanced health care directive, full well knowing I am the Next of Kin and with a history of 16 phone calls within the past year, Scott claimed to the VA I did not exist and he had no idea in the world how to get in touch with me.

This was 4 months after we had last spoken and he had sent me the Human Remains form to send to Greenwood.


So now the National Cemetery Administration has all of this information.  They should be interested in helping me correct this situation.  They should care.  They should be partially responsible for the fact that they buried mother on false pretenses against her wishes.

The facts are there.  The way to correct this mistake is difficult and expensive.....and very hard for me to figure out--I am not a lawyer.

Let them act interested and treat this very wonderful Veteran with dignity.