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The National Cemetery Administration and Les' Melnyck: I am the daughter...
Trying to get the National Cemetery Administration to recognize me as my mother's daughter.
As long as I do not exist they have done everything perfectly.
When they buried her without letting me know it was a terrible, painful and humiliating situation....and definitely not compassionate towards the family member.
Compassionate and courteous treatment to the family members are one of their hallmarks, they claim, but they were never compassionate towards me. Infact, they tried to discredit me once I started asking them questions.
Once I realized they had lied to me they basically quit speaking. Les' Melnyck, Public Outreach Officer, stated we cannot just let any random person know what we are doing.
But, Les', I am not a random person, I am the daughter. and named as the NOK in the will and trust.
Les' Melnyck stated in an e-mail that I had ignored my mother during COVID--not ture. They have stated lies about me but when I try to tell them the truth they will not talk.
How do I get the truth in the file.
They love their false narrative.
Is it proper for the NCA officials to try and assassinate the character of the family member--is that the philosophy of the NCA?
Did they not think I would be sad to find out my mother had been buried, had all of the military honors, and no one could be bothered to invite me to the service.
My mother never would have wanted me to be excluded--I am her only child--I took care of her--I arranged her placement in the VA home in Chula Vista.
They want to go on about how grand they are but in this instance their actions were very hurtful--is that the way they treat the family of the Veterans?
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Did The National Cemetery Administration Lie?
Did The National Cemetery Administration Lie?
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| My mother was old, 103, and my doggy girl was old, too, 16. She was just too old to make the trip according to my cousins's schedule. There was not a time frame to put her ashes in the ground--all of her people had passed. |
In a word, yes!
Why was I excluded from my mother's sevice?
I was told by the cemetery director, randy heard, that they did not know about me--they did not have the death cert as it was not required by the state of Arizona.
We see from FOIA they did, indeed, know about me:
My name is all over the VA system hooked to my mother.
They should have called to let me know they would be burying her ashes.
My cousin had picked up the ashes for me as a favor. He called and asked if he could pick up the ashes and I said yes as it saved me a trip. When I wanted to wait to bury her he becamed angry and placed her ashes without telling me, willfully, withholding my phone number from the cemetery.
Sep 21, 2023
Les' Melnyk Says the NCA Does Not Verify Facts
They did not verify the facts.
They lied about the records.
They congratulated themselves.
If everything was done so perfectly, why did cemetery director, randy heard, repeatedly lie about having my name in writing prior to the service.
They buried my mother but they could not be bothered to let me know.
A phone call would have been nice.
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| Les' Melnyk confirms the National Cemetery Administration does not verify facts. Seriously, Les', even when I am listed in writing as the daughter prior to the service....how crass and uncaring can the NCA possibly be? |
They told me to get a court order to be NOK for my mother. From the FOIA docs we see a court order is not necessary.
I am asking the NCA to list me as the NOK to my mother at this time and to acknowledge the will and trust where I am listed as the NOK for my mother and the agent in charge of my mother's remains to be placed in her file.
For some reason they are refusing to put the will and trust in the file.
Why?
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Remembering Helen Arnim of Orange California--September 11 1863
Her husband passed away at the age of 49.
She had four children 2 girls and 2 boys.
She moved to Orange to be near her brother where she built her new house to raise her family.
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| jay dalrymple had to comment on my financial situation--what did that have to do with anything--I had an agreement to meet with scott in November to place my mother at Greenwood but when I wanted to wait scott became angry. I was never worried about time. |
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Peerless Dry Cleaners--Vintage Orange
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| Peerless Cleaners--Orange California |
Phone 580--Orange
129 South Glassell
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From the files of Bessie Ida Arnim Varley
Tags: Peerless Dry Cleaners--Vintage Orange, Peerless Cleaners, Historic Orange California, Glassell Street, Historic Southern California, Vintage Orange County,
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Wedding Bells for Richard Byron Varley and Bessie Ida Arnim--August 5 1913
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| The Plaza at Orange, Ca--Historic Orange, California |
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| 221 So Glassell St, Orange, Ca about 1904 |
Tags: Wedding Bells for Richard Byron Varley and Bessie Ida Arnim--August 5 1913,Bessie Ida Arnim Varley,Richard Byron Varley Senior,Helen Virginia Laidley Arnim,221 So Glassell St Orange Ca,
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Is The VA And NCA Involved In A Cover-Up?
Well, the situation begs the question.
So, they buried my mother but could not be bothered to let me know.
Yes, they did their big investigation and what was their result--their own perfection.
Complaining and shaming about answering too many of my questions they have proclaimed they do not have time for me.
Really, because they did not answer any of my questions.
I still do not know what happened--what took place at the cemetery between my cousin and the employees--he told me he talked to someone at the cemetery and they agreed with him completely--about burying my mother and not letting me know.
I asked them to look into the fact that my cousin lied to the cemetery and the NCA.
They refuse to address the issue.
I asked them to look into the fact that randy heard, cem director, lied about the remains permit. He had it all along and denied it several times--refusing to acknowledge the policy for scanning information with the remains.
But why.....
What do we know so far?
We know scott varley lied to the NCA because one employee told me he absolutely lied and had to swear to that in an investigation.
So we know that the NationalCemetery Administration knows that my cousin, scott varley made false statements to the federal government and took my benefits.
We know that randy heard lied because he said I was not invited to the service because he did not know about me. We know he did from the remains permit--he lied about having it and he had it all along--the pauper's grave statement and the statement from scott about his conversation with the cem.
scott varley painted a picture of me a a derelict, as if I fell off the earth.
Why--so he could bury my mother and I would not know what was happening.
Is any of this up for debate.
Can the NCA acknowledge the facts.
It is humiliating to have this horrible, shameful, embarrassing information in my mother's file and then they go on about dignity--it is disgusting and it is ridiculous for grown men and women to not deal in facts and truth.
Should we expect integrity from the government--just asking......
The other huge question they are not addressing is my mother's will and trust and durable power of attorney where it states specifically that I am her agent to make decisions about her remains according to her wishes.
There are many publications where the VA encourages a veteran to have these documents in place.
I have asked them several times--is her will and trust on file--tell me why you will not recognize the legal document.
They skipped over these giant issues in their investigation and claimed they have spent way too much time looking into things for me.
We know they know scott varley lied--I am asking them kindly to acknowledge this information and include it and the will and trust in my mother's file.
I think they are reasonable questions since they buried her and did not let me know.
randy heard lied about knowing I existed, about the remains permit, and claimed scott varley did not make false statements and the VA did not do anything wrong after the other person said he swore in an investigation scott did make false statements.
Dear execs at the NCA...if someone lied to you about burying your mother wouldn't you want to know why.
We know they have a cavalier relationship with the truth because when jay dalrymple was told scott varly lied he said a lot of people lie these days and hung up on me.
According to Vince at Neptune in San Diego, Scott's pauper's grave story was a fantasy. The burial experts should have seen the red flags.
Did they contact Vince during their investigation?
Four different employees from 4 different National Cemeteries have told me they can easily check with the mortuary if there are red flags. I frequently try to do research.
They had Neptune on the Remains Permit, not to mention my name as the daughter and the destination of Greenwood where my mother owned her plot in San Diego. Her plot was next to her mother and her brother's one of them being scott,s father.
I trusted scott completely when he offered to pick up the ashes on a visit to San Diego--I thought we had a good relationship and I was happy about it but he became angry when I was indecisive and said I was on a budget.
scott varley used the VA as a tool for anger and revenge.
Is it too much to ask for the truth and honesty in my mother's file?
Given the indescrepencies it seems like it would be reasonable for one to ask questions.
If anyone has any tips, information, help, suggestions, ideas or thoughts about this very confusing issue please contact me.
Sherry McDowell
316-347-9710
chloe.louise.langendorf.louis@gmail.com
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| Here we are at Mother's 102nd at the Veterans Home in Clula Vista. It was nice of scott to visit my mother but he overstepped his bounds. Does anyone really think he did not know how to get in touch with me. |
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randy heard, Prescott National Cemetery Director, should have called Neptune...
randy heard, Prescott National Cemetery Director, should have called Neptune...
Should randy heard, Prescptt National Cemetery Dierector, have called Neptune?
Were there red flags?
My name was on the death certificate as the daughter, the destination of Greenwood was on the death cert, Neptune was on the death cert.....
But why did randy heard, Prescott Director, lie about having the death cert?
I wanted to know if he had the remains permit--this was with the ashes--I had to get a copy from cousin scott, to send to Greenwood where my mother owned her plot.
If they had all of that information--why didn't they just give me a call.
Wouldn't that have been easier and avoided this horrible incident.
The destination, alone, on the death cert is an issue--that alone is a red flag.
scott had to call me to give the okay so he could pick up the ashes from Neptune.
Certainly, randy heard, an experienced cemetery director, would have known this kind of thing.
He told me he did not know about me because he did not have the death cert because it was not required in the state of Arizona, therefore, I would not have been invited to the service.
But he did have the death certificate all along.
phillips, regional director, tells us this in an e-mail when he was questioned about what paperwork came with the ashes.
I kept assking randy heard, what papers were with the ashes--did you have the remains permit.
He repeatedly dodged the question and refused to answer telling me it was not required and good luck.
Initially he told me he did not have the death cert and he would patiently wait for me to get it.
I do not understand what was going on until this day--why all of the false statements.
scott told me, as he was bragging about burying my mother--as if he knew what to do and I did not--as if my mother and I did not have a brain--that he told someone at the cemetery the whole story and they agreed with him completely.
This would be how he did not know where I was or how to get in touch with me.
He saved the ashes from a pauper's grave.
"They had a 21 gun salute and I was the only one there."
"Why the heck didn't you just call me up?" I said.
(There may have been a different word used other than "heck" but I will leave that to the imagination.)
Vince from Neptune has later affirmed to me that he never used those words and they simply do not apply. He never could have done anything with the ashes without calling me because I am listed on the death cert as the NOK and the distination is Greenwood.
Would randy heard not know some of this info as an experienced cemetery director?
So if scott told the story to the cemetery would they not know about me?
The things do not add up and false staements are involved.
There are many stories on this blog that further explain the issue.
The issue of the NCA burying my mother and not letting me know.
She passed in 2020 and the service was inAugust of 2022. It wasn't like I disappeared off the face of the earth.
My phone number could easily have been found with the DD214.
Scott had my number.
There is so much lying and covering-up involved--that is what is hurtful.
I am asking them for honesty.
Should we expect honesty from a Ntional Cemetery Director when it comes to placing the ashes of a loved one.
Should we expect honesty from the government.
Is it wrong to trust the government.
Asking randy heard--why did you lie about the death cert?
If anyone has any tips or suggestions my name is Sherry McDowell and my number is 316-347-9710.
Thank you for reading.
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| Here we are at the VA Home in Chula Vista on mother's 102nd. It is kind of odd for scott to act like I did not exist. To me it is stretch for anyone to believe that. |
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How the VA Steals Your Soul
How the VA Steals Your Soul
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| Here is Scott Varley sending me the Remains Permit in November later claiming he did not know my phone number so there was no way to invite me to the service. |
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| I wanted to wait--my beautiful lady was really too old to make the trip and the trip prior was really so difficult for her. |